You may be quite familiar with this situation: You are working very hard and dedicated on your goal each and every day. Maybe you want to lose weight and you set yourself an extremely high bar because you clearly have a picture about it.
Nevertheless, there are setbacks. And even though it’s seem to be a no-brainer, it’s not. You laid out a clear plan and translated it into meaningful action. Let’s say one weighs 95kg and wants to lose weight. The ultimate goal for that person is 80kg within the next six months from today. That’s an impressive -15kg lose!
However, as time passes by there are some barriers to overcome: A regular routine, a personal commitment to do anything, a change in the diet and a consistency that will bring one closer to that ultimate number. And as it become more challenging, most people will give up since the level of frustration has piled up rapidly.
I know how it feels like, and yet, I was able to break through it when I wanted to transform my physical conditions to the next level. Since Kimify has been established earlier this summer, I have been experiencing the same issues again and again: One setback after another, one step forward, two steps back.
Back To The Basics: Do What You Love
I realised what high amount of frustration I had within me. Weeks passed by with little progress. I did everything by the book. Create content. Push the content. Interact with the community. Generate value for other people. Carry out the message with passion and enthusiasm.
But it didn’t hold long enough until I was back to my initial level of frustration. And it took some time to reflect. Why was it that most of us are becoming so frustrating when we know that good things do take some time? It then dawned me when I had to think about Steve Job’s famous quote “Do what you love”.
To love what you do does not necessarily refer to the things that you are passionate about per se, but about the process that you are in right now. If you do things that you don’t love and you quit, you won’t achieve what you initially set for yourself. “Love what you do” means to fall in love with the process that you hate first but get more and more comfortable as time flies by.
In the midst of our fast-changing world, we are no longer comfortable with the fact that we don’t get the things instantly in a world where the “WhatsApp effect” dominates almost every area of our life. Most of us expect to seethe results within a short period of time, and yet, a small fraction is willing to do the hard work consistently and play the long-term game.
Do You Set Meaningful Goals?
After talking to my good friend and brother Sascha Venus, I was reminded by something that I have known for a very long time but lost focus on:
- Goals are important for all of us. But meaningful goals are much more important. Surely, achieving 10.000 follower on any social media channel is ambitious, but what’s next then? Why do you set that goal for yourself in the first place?
- People gain satisfaction by being useful. Do your goals contribute to a larger purpose, a larger mission that you are following? Goals that contribute to a larger cause will provide most people with a sense of happiness and usefulness.
I think this was a powerful reminder on how to set meaningful goals. Don’t get it wrong: Metrics are important but setting goals for the pure purpose to achieve a metric alone won’t satisfy you and won’t give you a sense of usefulness in the long-run.
How Far Have You Come?
Following a larger purpose will bring its setbacks. But don’t allow this feeling of frustration to occur in the first place! Enjoy and sit back. Relax for a bit and dare to take a look back: how far have you come already?
Yes, you might have not achieved the golden 80kg benchmark. You could have achieved them already but you haven’t. But you may be far more ahead than you might think since you did everything, each and every day with consistency, that has contributed to your current situation. Little by little, you will come a bit closer.And you are maybe far better off today than you were a year ago.
Don’t be too harsh on yourself just because you haven’t achieved the ultimate metrics yet. Do something that follows a larger mission and brings a sense of usefulness to your mind. Enjoy the journey. Because the journey is your goal and not the destination.