As we come to an end of this year again, lot’s of you out there probably take some time and think back to see the moments that have been really edged into your minds. And hopefully, if you are doing it, you also take the time to draw your own lessons. After all, we progress as people. I personally believe that one doesn’t need a specific time frame to draw the right conclusions from past events in order to move forward. Rather it’s a symbolic act to close a chapter and to open another one. I’d like to provide some valuable information and conclusions that I drew from my own experiences and events that especially occurred during 2018, in hope that it may support you when you have been stuck in a
Quitting Means Not To Give Up But To Let Go What’s Not Right
There have been probably a dozen events where I felt like I wanted to quit right away. And by quitting, I am not referring to my current job situation but to events where I felt a heavy disconnect between where I am right now in my life and where I want to go in order to hit next level. I was challenged by so many old beliefs, old habits and new situations that required me to adapt quickly.
2018 has marked a change in my professional circumstances. More business travels were required. Travelling alone does not make any issues, in
Just with that little example from my own life, one may see what impact a decision not to quit an old habit and belief can have on the daily life. And I am pretty much sure if you look around for a while, you will find some old patterns as well that you may want to get rid of but simply fear that you are not able to overcome.
Quitting means not to give up. There is an essential difference between someone who quits because it’s getting harder and someone who quits because he or she feels that it’s simply not right.
You can quit bad habits, bad jobs, bad managers, bad relationships, bad friends. What
If it bores you, makes you feel uncomfortable, or you feel something is fundamentally wrong with those you consider as part of your inner circle, it’s likely to consider to quit. Because letting go is easier than to stick with toxic and
miserablesthings in the long-run.
What unites them is the fact that it makes you feel uncomfortable. You naturally feel it’s not right. It may sound easy but the fact is, a lot of people struggle to determine what to quit or when to quit. You know something is wrong. You know your job isn’t enough for you to fulfil your potential. You know you can’t rely on old habits or patterns because your overall circumstances have changed. You know something is not right because you can’t identify yourself with your friends and your inner circle any more.
In his book High Performance Habits, Brendon Burchard, who I have been following for years now, describes it in very simple terms: You can learn as many productivity hacks and strategies as possible, but if you don’t identify what makes you bored or miserable, you won’t gain the productivity gains in any field. It’s just sometimes hard to admit it to yourself. Do what makes you alive!
Have you ever thought about thinking 30 or 40 years ahead to look back what you have done yesterday, today, tomorrow and next week from now? I am not quite sure most people do. Living actively or thinking
Name all those self-made authors and motivational speakers! They are right in one thing: It would be quite sad to look back one day and realise you didn’t pursue the things you wanted to reach for yourself and to make a difference in other people’s lives to leave a footprint. A sense of usefulness and purpose which serves as a constant guide for you. Something that drives you each and every day to reach your highest sense of self.
And there are always going to be people who will accuse you of brainwashing or ask you to stop bullshitting around. Probably because confronting this question makes them feel uncomfortable. But we are not supposed to know every answer to those questions immediately.
In fact, we have been confronted with this situation many times in our lives already:
- I would quit my job if it didn’t bring me a sense of purpose, knowing I cannot make a difference in other people’s lives and in what they are doing.
- I wouldn’t have launched this business if I didn’t know that it’s just not enough to live from paycheck to paycheck, but to bring people together and to chase the dream of building communities, bringing people together and to generate a value for those I want to serve in the long-run.
- I wouldn’t have quit this toxic relationship if I didn’t know that a sense of self-respect and personal commitment to your own well-being is more important than maintaining a relationship just for the sake of being together and not to be alone.
Are the things that you do on a daily basis, the things that fill large parts of your life, fulfilling? Can you look back a year from now and say that you are proud of the things you do? If not, you feel already that something is just not right for you. It’s just hard to admit. And often times, it’s hard to make that first step because there’s one thing that
Embrace The Unkown
Have you tried to increase your productivity with things that just make you feel more miserable on a daily basis? So, why most rather stay where they are right now instead of quitting?
Well, here’s the thing: It’s better to let go of things that are not right for you and embracing the fact that you don’t know all the steps along the way in order to go where you want to be than feeling miserable, unhappy, or simply not right every day.
People don’t need to know every step. What they need is the courage to start doing something that leads them to the direction. Progress will come, progress will lack, even setbacks will come along the way. But if you do what gives you joy, pleasure, a larger purpose in a greater cause, there’s no need to be afraid of the unknown.
Life is supposed to be great with lot’s of joy and fun! Quitting the bad will release you and allows you to focus on the things that actually matter to you. Embrace the unknown, get comfortable to learn quickly every day. Approach things with joy and excitement! And live actively and think legacy to make a difference for yourself and for other people.